Adoption Disappointment

I know I’ve been too sick for too long now.  This is how I know.  I’m writing this at 3pm on Tuesday.  (I know you are reading this on Wednesday.)  I have fever again.  I’m on the verge of tears and I shouldn’t be.  I know this isn’t “the big stuff”.  But those of you reading this who know me know that the best gift of any kind that I can get is an adoption.  That is what I have teased about the last couple of days.  Only I’m sitting here on Tuesday afternoon feeling the disappointment of a big letdown. 

A couple of weeks ago, someone found Winnie’s Wish on Petfinder.  She and I entered into an email dialogue.  Now let me explain something.  There have probably been a dozen of these “finds” since Winnie’s Wish has been a Petfinder member.  Someone emails about a particular cat.  I enter into a dialogue with them.  What has happened every time is that we don’t get very far in the conversation and I just stop hearing from them or they tell me they’ve changed their mind or in one case, the person didn’t want to sign the contract.  But this time is was different.  This person kept emailing.  We discussed EVERYTHING about the adoption and made our plans.  It seemed it would be a perfect home.  We worked through all of the details.  The most amazing part was that she picked Mitts.  I was so happy to know that sweet, sweet Mitts was going to have a home - by Christmas!  We set December 18 as the day for the transport.  Then just when we got all of the details worked out, and I was going to post about it, I got another email from someone who found Winnie’s Wish on Petfinder.  I entered into a dialogue with this woman, and she was interested in Circe.  She and I emailed over this past weekend, and we were tying up some loose ends on Monday.  I thought Wednesday (the day you are reading this) would be the day I would be writing about TWO ADOPTIONS.  About the only thing I love as much as GETTING an adoption is SHARING it with those of you who read me and care so much about the kitties here.    But just a few minutes ago, I received an email from the first woman.  She has changed her mind.  

Mitts and Circe have been here SO long (as have Glitter, Cashmere, and Spritz).  I couldn’t have been more excited to know that Mitts FINALLY had a home of her own.  The disappointment has me near tears and I KNOW this is partially because I have been feeling so bad (physically) for days and days now.  I’ve barely been keeping my emotions in check as it is.  Now Mitts won’t have a home for Christmas.  And I’m not going to post a bunch of excitement over Circe’s possibility until I KNOW it is going to happen. 

Sweet Mitts is the one who once had a home.  Unfortunately, the full series of kitten vaccinations was never completed for Mitts.  AND - she was never spayed.  She got VERY sick, and almost died.  We took her back and worked for a very long time to keep her alive.  She is healthy again, yes.  But she is a cat who needs a human.





I try to stay “up” on this blog.  You guys who read here know that there have been some very sad times - times when furry little angels have struggled and even died.  I would much rather be dealing with the disappointment of a spurned adoption than the horrors of suffering or loss.  But I have to say this hits hard.  There hasn’t been an adoption here in a long time.  Then all of a sudden it seemed that TWO Gray Girls were about to get homes just in time for the holidays.  I will remain hopeful that Circe will go.  I will remain sad that Mitts got so close.

I’m going to close for now.  I’m not going to post on Thursday.  I think I probably need to get well.  Keep your fingers crossed that my second adoption hopes will not be dashed because we all know how deserving our Circe is.  And if you would, send a little prayer that Mitts will still end up in a (perfect) home of her own.  She wants and deserves it so very much.


Have a good weekend.  See you next week.

Comments

[Cat's Cats]

It's a blow for sure Chrystal, poor Mitts :-(

[ginny&the fur family]

MANY MANY prayers for Mitts to have a home by Christmas and Circe to get her home - I am reading this early in the morning. I do hope you get to feeling much better. Things can sure get a person down at the Holidays because that is a time we are supposed to feel up and good. Most of the time that is the time we get a bad cold or the flu. Mitts is a pretty little girl. Such a sweet face - won't some one out there find a place in your heart for Mitts so she will have a home by Christmas. God will love you for that. God loves all people and furries. Please Chrystal- rest and get well soon. - Ginny & The Family

[Kat & the Teenage Mutant Ninja Kitty Horde]

::HUGE HUGS!!!:: I'm so so sorry!! I know how devastating it is for you to expect a sweet deserving baby to get a home and then have it not happen. Maybe someone will read this and realize how wonderful Mitts is!! I'm praying that Circe's adoption goes through smoothly!!

[Random Felines]

Oh honey - I am SO sorry. Fingers crossed for Circe. And know that Mitts may have been close, but there is something better for her out there. We just have to have faith. I completely know where you are coming from....I have had many applications for cats here through the rescue get so close and them implode for some reason. All we can do is hold on, know the cats are safe with us, and move forward looking for that home to come along. Get some rest and kiss a kitten. :)

[Goldie Goodwin]

I am so sorry to hear about Mitts. Something will work out. Prayers that the adoption with Circe does come through! Take is easy and rest. Things always look worse when we aren't feeling physically well.

[Bellen]

That is a bitter blow indeed. I know a little of what you are feeling. Luther, a cat I fostered for a while, had someone interested in him. He's a tough one because as loveable as he is - and he's a true sweetie! - he can't live with other cats. Anyone reading this will know how hard it is to find a cat-fancier who doesn't already have at least one. Luther was chosen, things were arranged, then the woman backed out. She had a 'feeling' that Luther would bite her grandchildren. He's never bit anyone, not even the cats he's fought with. The woman hadn't met Luther yet and she had a 'feeling'.

Disappointment is a sickening emotion. Almost to have something and then have it snatched away is painful. I wish Circe good luck and hope that her Christmas will be in a new and loving home.

[The Poupounette]

We so feel your disappointment. Damn woman! Sorry about the language, but REALLY!

Look after yourself, Chrystal. You need to be well again.

[meowmeowmans]

Disappointing, indeed. I'm so sorry to hear that this adoption did not work out for Mitts. But we have our fingers and paws crossed that this is merely a bump in the road, and that his real forever home is just ahead. We are purring and praying that Circe's adoption happens. That would be grand.

Get better soon, dear friend.

Hugs.

[Mindy Slimmer]

Chrystal,
As long as Mitts was not told, then I think we are okay. :) I'm having a bummer of a day reading about the "almost adoption" and wish people would commit but then again, maybe its better that what happened did than Mitts coming back again because of non-serious adopter.
Much Love,
Mindy

[Andrea and the Celestial Kitties]

Oh Chrystal, that flu seems to have a strangle hold on you! Many many prayers that you get better soon!! Poor Mitts, I wish it had worked out for her. She's so cute and those extra toes are just adorable! Someone will have to fall in love with her soon!
We're praying that Circe's adoption goes through all the way this time! That girl has been waiting long enough!
We've got our fingers and toes and eyes crossed that this works out!

People, we need to work hard to help these kitties get their homes! They're so wonderful, so sweet, so deserving! (And Chrystal could use a little pick me up too!) We just have to keep spreading the word! Please do what you can!

Don't forget! Adoptions! Books! Fundraiser! Adoptions! Donations! Tell your friends! Share! Tweet! Adoptions!!

[Rebecca Hamilton]

I am the second person she is taking About and I guarantee Circe, Glitter and, Cashmere will be coming to their forever home on the 15th. We are so exited to have them. Last year my cat, best friend Casper passed away at the age of 20 and I miss him and miss having a cat. I'm a cat person. I started out interested in just Circe, then saw Glitter and decided we wanted her too. Then my husband fell in love with Cashmere. So we are getting all 3. Chrystal is such a wonderful person and a pleasure to talk to. I am excited to bring these 3 beauties home and meet her . So don't fear 3 girls will be getting some humans to love them she their own home very soon.

[Jan (Milo and Alfie's mom)]

Sending you huge purrs and hugs. We're sorry things don't always work out the way we all hope they will ~ but have faith, these sweet cats will find their loving forever home in time. Thank you for loving them all so much. xxx

[Glogirly and Katie]

I'm so sorry...I can feel your deep disappointment. Maybe there are other reasons at work, we can never know. Sending purrs and prayers for both Mitts and Circe.
(((love)))