When I was writing about Rube, I realized something. What we gave to Rube is what I wish someone (lots of someones) would give to some of the Wishers.
Rube didn’t give much back. I didn’t care. I knew he was safe and fed and indoors. And I knew I would give him any amount of attention and love that he wanted (or didn’t). I guess I have so many furry family members that I can get my love returned by my lovies, and allow my non-lovies to do their own thing. Benji is another one who just doesn’t give affection. And he doesn’t want to receive it either. That doesn’t mean I still don’t try. I sure do (can’t seem to help it). And he’s usually upset enough by my overtures that he leaves my presence. Rube didn’t care much for attention either, but he wasn’t noticeably offended by it. Here’s the thing. When I brought first Benji and then Rube home, I knew from the descriptions my daughters had given me that I wasn’t going to get much back from these two. But they needed a home just as badly as all of the other shelter dogs. I do get it. People want their animals to give back at least some of what they receive. I love it when one of my cats jumps up, walks across my lap with tail straight up and right in my face, while pushing his/her own face into my shoulder on the way by. I love it when one of my dogs gets over-the-top excited at my return after having been gone for the eternity of at least fifteen minutes. I love these things. And I want them. But I am also happy when I look over at one of my less social kitties and she’s curled up on a warm bed, snoozing comfortably. I’m happy when Benji looks up at me with a sideways glance while he’s crunching his supper. I enjoyed finding Rube sound asleep on his favorite chair.
I am currently without ANY super friendly, going-to-be-easy, Winnie’s Wish cats. But there are two things I am hoping for. One, that there are folks out there who have their “lovies” and would be willing to give a home to a kitty who won’t give much back (at least not for a long time). OR that there are some folks out there who maybe don’t even have a furry family member right now, and would be willing to spend the time, love, and patience on a difficult but long-term relationship. And two, that there are folks out there who will adopt a PAIR - a “friendlier” with a “less-friendly.” I think it’s easier for the bonded Wishers to transition if they have a best buddy with them. But also, as the “friendlier” one slowly starts to come around, there isn’t any pressure on the “less-friendly” one to do anything but whatever he/she needs to do.
I do realize that adopting cats who don’t initially give back is different from adopting dogs of this persuasion. With a dog, you can be pretty sure he or she is eating and eliminating. Hard to tell with a cat. Also – a dog can’t really completely hide for weeks on end. I realize that adopting a “less-friendly” cat is different than adopting this type of dog. But here is something I know to be true and I wish more people knew this (and would be willing to do it). I have a handful of Wisher cats living in homes who literally could not be touched for MONTHS. Hope is one. Yet I received the Christmas picture of her in Gail’s lap. Spritz is another. But her mom says they can just scoop her up and carry her around anywhere now. Sunshine and Juice were both untouchable initially. Sunshine came around pretty quickly. A year later, their mom told me that Juice was still skiddish . . . but loved.
There are people in this world who will offer a home to an animal even if they know they might never get much in return. What I and others know from experience is that there IS a payoff even when there isn’t much returned love. The payoff is in knowing that a little animal gets to spend his or her life in a home with a human who cares. The payoff is in knowing you’ve helped. The payoff comes in the love you give regardless of what you receive in return.
What I Need Now are some folks like that. Friends, wish with me that in 2017 some Wishers will be adopted, even though there’s really no kitty here who will be an easy love. If all 23 Wishers remain here because none are highly adoptable kitties, I’ll surely not be able to save many homeless cats in the future.
I’m going to do a post about PAIRS of Wishers soon. Those are kitties that I still hope will be adopted together. So today, I’ll mention some Wishers who are not attached to other Wishers. Maybe someone out there will be just the one to give me What I Need Now.
Adopting one of these Wishers would be a Labor of Love. There would be a long phase of no connection, and not much contact. But eventually that Wisher can be a family member. And every kitty who leaves Winnie’s Wish opens a spot for a homeless cat out there somewhere who needs to be rescued.
(If you're considering Smokey or Snowflake, please also see this post - Pick a Pair Series - Friends.
Keep your fingers crossed, Friends. See you tomorrow.