It’s been nine months since I wrote about Slate and Finnick needing a home together. I did a quick mention of them in December, but the last in-depth post was last October. I wrote about Snowflake in February. Not long ago, I had an inquiry about Slate & Finnick. There was a couple who discovered them on Petfinder and they couldn’t believe how much they looked like a pair of cats they’d had. She wrote: My husband and i are interested in Finnick and Slate. We had two cats that were best friends before. Domino looked just like Finnick and passed away in 2011. Max looked just like Slate and he passed this last summer. Heres our Max and Domino. (She even included a picture.) Of course, I was happy that someone inquired about Slate and Finnick. But I also knew what kind of challenge these two would be. I had to be completely honest with this woman when I emailed her back. Here is what I wrote:
It's wonderful to get an inquiry about Slate & Finnick. However, I want to
start off completely honest. If you are looking for a couple of easy cats
to add to your family, these two are not it. Almost all of the cats here at
Winnie's Wish had feral starts in life. Many of them are absolutely
wonderful (HERE). But these are cats who require very special, very
patient homes. Slate was tried in a home once and the woman told me he was
awful - climbed her walls and "charged" at her toddler. I do have trouble believing that about Slate,but I wasn't there. I only know how he
is here - he's a sweet cat who wants love. Finnick is so attached to me
that he grabs me when I walk in and won't let me go. He wants me to sit in
the floor and let him walk all over me and rub on me. He gets a terribly
sad face when I leave the room he lives in. If you could see how these two
cats act WITH ME you would be sure you wanted to adopt them. But this is
NOT how they will be in a new home with new people. My guess is that it
will be a very long adjustment period. And I've got to be honest - some
cats with feral backgrounds take months, even up to a year, to adjust in a
new home. It was six months before I could touch Finnick. It didn’t take that long to pet and hold Slate, but he remained shy for a long time.
I love it that you found Winnie's Wish and that you have inquired about
these two boys. They absolutely love each other and I would never separate
them. So I’m certainly looking for a family who will adopt them together. I'd love to think your home
might be THE home for these two. But you will definitely not get a couple
of immediately-in-your-lap kitties from Winnie's Wish.
The people who have adopted from Winnie's Wish end up falling in love with their
Wishers. But these have been, for the most part, people who want to give a
home to a cat who otherwise just won't ever be chosen.
Having read to this point, let me know if you are still
interested. Obviously, I need wonderful forever homes. I can only save
more homeless cats as the current ones slowly get adopted. But it's only
fair to let you know the truth about Slate and Finnick. Not knowing ahead of time what you might be getting into wouldn’t be good for you OR for Slate and Finnick.
I received a short email in response to my very lengthy one. But I appreciated what this woman said (and did). She wrote: Thank you so much for your brutal honesty. We are going to pass right now as
we do not believe we are the best home for Finnick and Slate right now. Please let us know how to
make a donation to Winnies Wish. Thank you.
This probably should have been more disappointing to me than it actually was. Winnie’s Wish needs wonderful forever homes. But after Hope’s first failed placement, and Traci Mae’s recent failed placement, even Slate’s failed placement way back there – I am more willing to “put it out there.” It’s just the plain old truth that some of the cats here (the majority) are going to need very special homes. They had terrible starts in life and know ONLY Winnie’s Wish as home. If someone wants to adopt one (or two) of my less-adoptable Wishers, and they learn the truth about what it might be like for quite a while, and they still want to try it, then we are way more likely to have a FOREVER home than before the testimony.
I had planned for today’s post to be an “adoption post” for Slate and Finnick. I was going to use the sadness of having been inquired about but ultimately not chosen as the reason for another plea. But as I read back through the letter I’d sent to this inquiring person, I realized that Slate and Finnick are probably a couple of Wishers who should be considered as Sanctuary Cats rather than Shelter Cats. I realized as I was reading back through this letter that Slate and Finnick are quite happy here. Yes, Finnick gets sad when I leave him, but I’ve peeked back in on him and he is almost as content with Slate as he is with me. I guess I’ll keep Slate and Finnick in my sidebar. I’ll leave them on Petfinder, too, but with this (today’s) post as a link. If there is someone out there who could read this and STILL think he or she could give these two the perfect home, then I’d be willing to consider it. For instance, if another person like Gail (who adopted Hope) should come along, that would be amazing. Remember what Gail said about adopting Hope (who took months to adjust) – there are lots of people who just don't get it. Someone told me that I should have adopted a cat here, and then I wouldn't have had to travel and could have had a cat that was immediately engaging. So wrong on so many levels. If the cats are already well adjusted, anyone can take them; it is up to those with patience to help the kitties that got off to a bad start. We are pleased with Hope’s progress and think she will warm up in time. We consider Hope to be home and do not wish to send her back. She is very sweet and just needs time to adjust. Even if she doesn't become any more social than she currently is, we are happy. Well, how about this – Gail sent me a text not long ago with these pictures. The text said that she wanted to share because the pictures were of Hope ON THE COUCH with her, and that Hope sitting with her has become routine. Yippee!!!
So if there is a home out there like Gail’s for Slate & Finnick, we’ll take it! In the meantime, maybe Slate and Finnick ARE home . . . at least for now.
Oh, but the title included Snowflake. Well, she is the same type of cat and the same type of happy (here) that Slate and Finnick are. So maybe she’s already home, too.
Have a great weekend!